Attitude.......

When it rains, all birds fly for shelter...............
But EAGLE avoids the shelter by flying above the Clouds........
Problems are common to all but attitude makes the difference..............
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If u have ability to stand tall even after u have been hurt badly by your dear ones
Just a smile will punish them more than your words.......................
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If you have others to help you, you are lucky
If you have none around you to help that means
God has full trust on you.....TRUST YOURSELF.................

Deal with Criticism

Evolved, determined and persisting persons are not felled or unnerved by criticism or even by aspersions cast on them or by ridicule. These, they know, are all hazards, which those aspiring for excellence have necessarily to face. Knowing they are on the right path, divining their work upon this earth, they are like rivers, which know where they go.

Actually, such an approach may not apply fully to all, including those seeking and persevering aspirants, who deep within may feel they could do with certain corrective actions or suggestions. Faced sometimes and perhaps often with doubt, cynicism and discouragement both from within and without, they could take heart from a hint for adopting the 'golden mean', as contained in Rudyard Kipling's poem, IF-. This poet conceives of the wise approach in such a situation, thus: "If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you/But make allowance for their doubting too."

An old Tamil adage notes that even an elephant can slip on its foot or foothold. The seeker, knowing that even the highly competent can err, would be open to suggestions and criticism, capable as he would be, to discriminate between those which are constructive and those which would not apply to him.

It is in the above context, that one should be guided by the exhortation in Bhagawad Gita (VI,7) on not losing composure or presence of mind either in honour or dishonor and even when ridiculed or maligned.

Dealing intelligently with all types of criticism, therefore, is an art, which could confer immense practical and tangible benefits!

- K. Vijayaraghavan

Never give up when you face storm’s………!

A lady was driving along with her father. They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, what should I do?" He said "keep driving". Cars began to pull over to the side, the storm was getting worse. "What should I do?" The young lady asked? "Keep driving, her father replied.

On up a few feet, she noticed that eighteen wheelers were also pulling over. She told her dad, "I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!" Her father told her, "Don't give up, just keep driving!" Now the storm was terrible, but she never stopped driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out. Her father said, "Now you can pull over and get out." She said "But why now?" He said "When you get out, look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm, because you never gave up and your storm is now over. This is a testimony for anyone who is going through "hard times". Just because everyone else, even the strongest, gives up. You don't have to...if you keep going, soon your storm will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again. This story touched me! I hope it touched you! Feel free to pass it on to some people you know. Tell them never give up, because GOD will never give up on them. "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me! Philippians 4:13.

Why only me ?

Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983. From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"? To this Arthur Ashe replied: "The world over -- 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, and 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi-finals, 2 to the finals, When I was holding a cup I never asked GOD, Why me? And today in pain I should not be asking GOD, Why me? Happiness keeps you Sweet, Trials keep you Strong, Sorrow keeps you Human, Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing, but only Faith & Attitude keeps you going. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28; God strategically placed each word of this passage to assure us He is for us! And if you're a Christian, it applies to every aspect of life. You can claim it whether you're operating a billion-dollar industry or you're unemployed. Regardless of what happens, everything—everything!—somehow cooperates for your good! God Bless You.

Of Success and Failure

It is better to play to win than to lose; it is better to wear out than to rust out. It is better to aim for excellence and not get lost in success. When one puts oneself on the track of excellence, it brings out inherent talents to light. It is said those who have never angered anyone is a failure in life. Similarly, a person who has never lost has never found the joy of winning. No doubt there is a joy in winning and pain in losing and if one does not accept both then it is like expecting the river to have one bank, the river is contained by two sides of the bank, is it not? Winning involves four important dimensions: Self-confidence, mental toughness, winning-oriented thinking and the ability to innovate. Self-confidence stands on three important pillars: feeling good, taking responsibility and developing skills. One has to learn the art of feeling good even in moments of pressure. The quality of life is the quality of one's consistent emotion. One has to master the art of keeping emotion in a state of well-being; search for such a state of consciousness. At moments of pressure, the mind tends to validate itself unconsciously on incidents where one is in pressure. In cricket, when wickets are falling, new players are under great pressure. Past failures will influence present situations. So we are not living in the present but we are living in our past. In my interactions with cricket players i tell them that when they are under pressure, they should consciously recreate their future and not their past. How can one do that? That is the responsibility and discipline one should have. Create your future from the commitment to win and with the wisdom gained out of your past failure. Recollect in your mind incidents for example, in cricket when a particular player was under tremendous pressure and faced with failure and yet how the player has bounced back. You should have these references ready and alive in you even before the match. One has to train one's body to be in the peak state, one's emotions to be in peak state and one's spirit also to be in a peak state. In such a peak state, a different quality of energy emerges and will influence one's action. Mind has to be tough for doing so. One has to teach and value a mind so as not to be disturbed. Once when you value it, action emerges from such an action. Your actions are an extension of your values. At the end, one also has to understand that failures are fertilisers to success. In fact, failures are postponed success. Don't fear failure but learn from failure. In failure there are recipes for success. By worrying and fearing, you miss learning. But observe and be unaffected by failure. With such a self-esteem one's winning and losing will only enhance one's talent and value. Cultivate interest in innovation for that is what will encourage and inspire you. Innovation will happen through focus, practice and inspiration. All that one can do is to put in consistent best efforts consciously. Success and failure are two sides of the same coin; irrespective of the best effort one puts in, you will have to face both success and failure at different times. There is no need to get discouraged by failure or unduly elated by success, for the time will come when the successful face failure and those who have failed will taste success. Swami Sukhabodhananda

Hope and Faith

The car you drive has a large windshield, but only a relatively small rear view mirror. The implication is obvious: What happened in your past is not nearly as important as what is in your future. Where you are going is much more important than where you've been. If you stay focused on the past, you're liable to miss numerous excellent opportunities ahead. Don't let disappointment become the central theme of your life. Quit mourning over something you can't change. God wants to give you a new beginning, but you have to let go of the old before you'll ever see the new. Let that door close behind you and step through the door in front of you. Maybe you've allowed other people to convince you that you're never going to rise higher, that you will never see your dreams come to pass. Don't believe them. When Caleb was a young man, he and Joshua were part of an exploratory spy mission to determine the strength of the enemy before God's people moved into the land that God had promised them. Out of the twelve spies, only Caleb and Joshua presented a positive report to Moses. They were all too willing to settle for the second best, to dwell for the rest of their lives right where they were. Unfortunately, that group of negative thinkers never did make it into the Promised Land. They spent the next forty years spinning their wheels and wandering around aimlessly in a desert. By then Caleb was 85 years old, but he hadn't given up on the dream God had placed in his heart. He told Joshua that he was still as strong as he was when the promise first came to him. Caleb went back to the same place and asked god for that mountain to live on. The mountain he claimed had five giants living on it. Surely, he could have found a place less fortified, more accessible, or more easily occupied. Although it is forty years later, he believed until he has seen that promise being fulfilled. That's the kind of attitude we need to have. We give up too easily. No, keep pressing forward, and keep believing. Keep yourself stirred up. You've got the gifts, the talents and the dreams. Don't allow complacency to keep you from seeing god's promises fulfilled in your life.

Wings of Fire....A P J Abdul Kalam

Each individual creature on this beautiful planet is created by God to fulfill a particular role. Whatever I achieved in life is through His help and an expression of His will. He showered His grace on me through some outstanding teachers and colleagues and when I pay my tributes to these fine persons, I'm merely praising His glory. All these rockets and missiles are His work through a small person Kalam, in order to tell several million mass of India, to never feel small or helpless. We all are born with a divine fire in us. Our efforts should be to give wings to this fire and fill the world with the glow of its goodness.
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I have always been a religious person in the sense that I maintain a working partnership with God. I was aware that the best work required more ability than I possessed and therefore I NEEDED HELP THAT ONLY GOD COULD GIVE ME. I made a true estimate of my own ability, then raised it 50 per cent and put myself in God's hands. In this partnership, I've always received all the power I needed and in fact have actually felt it flowing through me. Today, I can affirm that the kingdom of God is within you in the form of this power, to help you achieve your goals and realise your dreams.
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All reasonable men adapt themselves to the world. Only a few unreasonable ones "persist" in trying to adapt the world to themselves. All the progress in the world depends on these unreasonable men and their innovation and non-conformist actions.
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It is essential for a project manager to learn to live with uncertainty and ambiguity.
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I believed they drew sustenance from within. They relied more on the inner signals and less on the external cues.
Are you aware of your inner signals?
Do you trust them?
Do you have the focus of control over your life in your own hands?
Take this from me, the more decisions you can make avoiding external pressures, which will constantly try to manipulate and immobilise you, the better your life will be, the better your society will become. The entire nation will benefit by having strong, inner-directed people as their leaders.
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Your willingness to use your own inner resources to invest your life, especially your imagination, will bring you success. When you undertake a task from your own uniquely individual standpoint, you will become a person.
You, me, everyone on this planet is sent free by Him to cultivate all the creative potential within us and live at peace with our own conscience. We differ in the way we make our choices and evolve our destiny. Life is a difficult game. You can win it only by retaining your birthright to be a person. And to retain this right, you will have to willing to take the social and external risks involved in ignoring pressures to do things the way others say they should be done.
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Above all things, reverence yourself.

Thought of the day

To know how to say what other people only think is what makes men poets and sages; and to dare to say what others only dare to think, makes men martyrs or reformers, or both.

Elizabeth Rundle Charles, writer (1828-1896)

today's ideas

Today is my sister's birthday and i decided to start writing again. I'll start with the following:
1.) By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he's wrong.
2.) Thank God for What You Have,Trust God For What you Need

what is the meaning of growing numbers.....

It is not how old you are, but how you are old. -Jules Renard, writer (1864-1910)

When I don't write.................

Whatever philosophies people offer you or you offer to yourself for your life path, nothing changes the fact that it is all about your decisions. It is as simple as that. Nothing is free and nothing is permanent. Every moment we are deciding what will happen next. just cause and effect relationship and it is our way of thinking, our approach which makes us what we are. Therefore it is very important that you take your decisions yourself, about everything which is related to you.............time to have dinner :)

How to leave behind and to move forward

I know it is easily said than done..............leaving behind all the painful memories/experiences......... but there is no other way. recently I read a very good line from Anupam kher:
"Life is not always about glory and achievement, it is about growing up as a person."
yes, those tough experiences teach us more than what we could learn otherwise. That simple and rosy picture of success where you see yourself enjoying work with your family with a comfortable and satisfactory social circle...........is easy to talk about on a blogger site, but requires a lot of efforts in real life. Are we ready?
If I myself introspect my own life and the graph of personal and professional life, both seems to be OK. Yes, I'm not a prodigy and I've not made any records except doing what I was supposed to do with sincerity and hard work, without passing on the blame to somebody and taking responsibility of my own decisions; I know life could not have taken shape in some other way i.e. I got more than what I deserved or thought of achieving and I'm improving with each new and unexpected experience of life, I think now things are improved so much for me that I can be more focused towards what I want out of my life. But here I feel helpless :(
I think this is the funniest part of my life, I always performed better when circumstances were not favorable or were not in my control, but when things are going OK, I'm finding it hard to choose the best option for me. But I want to move forward with all the wisdom which I learnt when I traveled without any specific goal, moving where destiny took me and I don't want to be so casual about the way I live my life..........................................

New Year Resolution............Humanity as Religion

It is OK to decide on something good on New Year. I'm also like you and I thought of doing smething good for the society in this year.

Let us start with these ideas in this song...................

Let us pray that He should guide us in the coming years to take the right path instead of wasting our life in trivial matters.

*Speech by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis*

Thanks to one of my seniors@office for forwarding this to me.........

Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful.*Balanced* means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

"Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die. ………………. One thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? …………….It's ok, bunk a few classes, scoring low in couple of papers, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, fall in love, little fights with your spouse. We are people, not programmed devices..... ...." :)

*"Don't be serious, be sincere."!!*

Dance Slow...................

Another message which I got on this special day, thank to Anita, my friend@office

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down. Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.

Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask, how are you? Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?
You'd better slow down. Don't dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.

Ever told your child, we’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, Let a good friendship die
because you never had time, to call and say, 'Hi'
You'd better slow down. Don't dance so fast.
Time is short. The music won't last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift Thrown away.
Life is not a race. Do take it slower
Hear the music before the song is over.

(Source: from a forwarded mail supposed to be written by a cancer patient)

Be Focussed.................

When you have to put up with mean people, Think of them as sandpaper.They may scratch you,Rub you the wrong way,
But eventually...
YOU end up smooth & polished
And the sandpaper....?
It'll be worn out & ugly!Makes you think, doesn't it?

*"Never loose sight of who You Are, because You Are the Best thing God ever Created, Embrace the gift"*

Quotes by Homi J. Bhabha...........

1). "I know quite clearly what I want out of my life. Life and my emotions are the only things I am conscious of. I love the consciousness of life and I want as much of it as I can get. But the span of one's life is limited. What comes after death no one knows. Nor do I care. Since, therefore, I cannot increase the content of life by increasing its duration, I will increase it by increasing its intensity. Art, music, poetry and everything else that consciousness I do have this one purpose - increasing the intensity of my consciousness of life."

2). My success will not depend on what A or B thinks of me. My success will be what I make of my work.

3). No exam was ever a test of original or creative ability in anybody.

Sri Sai Satcharitra..........Excerpts

Then finally I started reading this.......My younger sister gave it to me when I visited my hometown recently......I thought that I love Baba so much that I need not to read this, but I feel it makes relationship stronger and short stories about devotees experiences is forcing me to understand Baba from a very different perspective. I feel more that just a holy saint He was a social reformer and a doctor(yes, true , Dr. Saibaba :)).........I'm finding that He was an eccentric person and beyond understanding.........and you know that's why, it is all left upto the reader or devotees to understand Him in his/her own way..............I would like to enlist His teachings as I go along the book. I'm on 14th Chapter now..............

He assured that He would give them whatever they ask, till they asked Him whatever He wanted to give...........page 98

Learning on Y-Axis................contd

Than I'm back on this interesting topic. I wanted to restart with my technical stuff. I already knew about NPTEL and could find a lot of tutorials on Youtube. Today I came across the following link and thought of including it here on my blog before I get bored with the tutorials:

NPTEL listing from Gaurish Sharma

Excerpts from "Power of Now"........P79

"Satori"........A word used by Zen masters to describe a flash of insight.

Have you listened, truly listened to the sound of a mountain stream in the forest? Or to the sing of a blackbird at the dusk on a quiet summer evening? To become aware of such things, the mind needs to be still. You have to put down for a moment your personal baggage of problems, of past and future, as well as all your knowledge; otherwise you will see, but not see, hear but not hear. Your total presence is required.

Beyond the beauty of the external forms, there is more here: something that cannot be named, something ineffable, some deep, inner holy essence. Whenever and wherever there is beauty, this inner essence shines through somehow. It only reveals itself to you when you are present.